Drinking too much alcohol increases people’s risk of injuries, violence, drowning, liver disease, and some types of cancer. This April during Alcohol Awareness Month, Family Practice Associates of Lexington encourages you to educate yourself and your loved ones about the dangers of drinking too much.
To spread the word and prevent alcohol abuse, Family Practice Associates is joining other organizations across the country to honor Alcohol Awareness Month.
If you are drinking too much, you can improve your health by cutting back or quitting. Here are some strategies to help you cut back or stop drinking:
- Limit your drinking to no more than 1 drink a day for women or 2 drinks a day for men.
- Keep track of how much you drink.
- Choose a day each week when you will not drink.
- Don’t drink when you are upset.
- Limit the amount of alcohol you keep at home.
- Avoid places where people drink a lot.
- Make a list of reasons not to drink.
Building your drink refusal skills
Plan ahead to stay in control
Even if you are committed to changing your drinking, “social pressure” to drink from friends or others can make it hard to cut back or quit. This short module offers a recognize-avoid-cope approach commonly used in cognitive-behavioral therapy, which helps people to change unhelpful thinking patterns and reactions. It also provides links to worksheets to help you get started with your own plan to resist pressure to drink.
Recognize two types of pressure
The first step is to become aware of the two different types of social pressure to drink alcohol—direct and indirect.
- Direct social pressure is when someone offers you a drink or an opportunity to drink.
- Indirect social pressure is when you feel tempted to drink just by being around others who are drinking—even if no one offers you a drink.
Take a moment to think about situations where you feel direct or indirect pressure to drink or to drink too much. Write them down, then, for each situation, choose some resistance strategies from below, or come up with your own. When you’re done, you can print the form or email it to yourself.
Avoid pressure when possible
For some situations, your best strategy may be avoiding them altogether. If you feel guilty about avoiding an event or turning down an invitation, remind yourself that you are not necessarily talking about “forever.” When you have confidence in your resistance skills, you may decide to ease gradually into situations you now choose to avoid. In the meantime, you can stay connected with friends by suggesting alternate activities that don’t involve drinking.
Cope with situations you can’t avoid
Know your “no”
When you know alcohol will be served, it’s important to have some resistance strategies lined up in advance. If you expect to be offered a drink, you’ll need to be ready to deliver a convincing “no thanks.” Your goal is to be clear and firm, yet friendly and respectful. Avoid long explanations and vague excuses, as they tend to prolong the discussion and provide more of an opportunity to give in. Here are some other points to keep in mind:
- Don’t hesitate, as that will give you the chance to think of reasons to go along
- Look directly at the person and make eye contact
- Keep your response short, clear, and simple
The person offering you a drink may not know you are trying to cut down or stop, and his or her level of insistence may vary. It’s a good idea to plan a series of responses in case the person persists, from a simple refusal to a more assertive reply. Consider a sequence like this:
- No, thank you.
- No, thanks, I don’t want to.
- You know, I’m (cutting back/not drinking) now (to get healthier/to take care of myself/because my doctor said to). I’d really appreciate it if you’d help me out.
You can also try the “broken record” strategy. Each time the person makes a statement, you can simply repeat the same short, clear response. You might want to acknowledge some part of the person’s points (“I hear you…”) and then go back to your broken-record reply (“…but no thanks”). And if words fail, you can walk away.
Script and practice your “no”
Many people are surprised at how hard it can be to say no the first few times. You can build confidence by scripting and practicing your lines. First imagine the situation and the person who’s offering the drink. Then write both what the person will say and how you’ll respond, whether it’s a broken record strategy (mentioned above) or your own unique approach. Rehearse it aloud to get comfortable with your phrasing and delivery. Also, consider asking a supportive person to role-play with you, someone who would offer realistic pressure to drink and honest feedback about your responses. Whether you practice through made-up or real-world experiences, you’ll learn as you go. Keep at it, and your skills will grow over time.
Try other strategies
In addition to being prepared with your “no thanks,” consider these strategies:
- Have non-alcoholic drinks always in hand if you’re quitting, or as “drink spacers” between drinks if you’re cutting back
- Keep trackof every drink if you’re cutting back so you stay within your limits
- Ask for support from others to cope with temptation
- Plan an escape if the temptation gets too great
- Ask others to refrain from pressuring you or drinking in your presence (this can be hard)
If you have successfully refused drink offers before, then recall what worked and build on it.
Remember, it’s your choice
How you think about any decision to change can affect your success. Many people who decide to cut back or quit drinking think, “I am not allowed to drink,” as if an external authority were imposing rules on them. Thoughts like this can breed resentment and make it easier to give in. It’s important to challenge this kind of thinking by telling yourself that you are in charge, that you know how you want your life to be, and that you have decided to make a change.
Similarly, you may worry about how others will react or view you if you make a change. Again, challenge these thoughts by remembering that it’s your life and your choice, and that your decision should be respected.
If you are concerned about someone else’s drinking, offer to help. Here are some local Alcoholic Anonymous Centers.
Bowling Green, Kentucky
Bowling Green Central Office
No. Kentucky Central Office
Western Kentucky Intergroup
Toll Free: (800)606-6047
Greater Louisville Intergroup Inc
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